Written by Dong, 2021 Cohort
I am used to being a quite sensitive person who is easily affected by negative feedback. These comments seem mean and unbearable to me, and I couldn’t help myself ruminating about them, which can affect my mood on a daily basis. Then teachers started to use textbook
methodologies, teaching me to be polite with others even though some of these “others” are wrong. The advice asks me to act as if immune to the vitriol of haters, which is difficult to do.
These techniques don’t help me deal with my strong feelings, my feeling hurt in the event. On the contrary, this can get me to become even more frustrated. I start to think, why do they deserve peace of mind and I don’t? “A tit for tat” has been my life motto for a long time. But I soon realized that this strategy is a sure fire for burning bridges it is both time and energy consuming.